It has been two years since living in Sandton. And Girrrrrl let me tell you this has not been the easiest road. I felt I voiced a lot of relatable experiences in my lengthy Convo series. That I wanted to start a New One based off living away from Home as a 20 something year old.
Hold Up Wait a Minute let me put my 2 Cents in it
When I relocated from Cape Town I was the first among my peers to dare. I just had my Matric certificated failed attempts at studying. A job in the communication / retail industry and a heart full of enthusiasm for all and more.
My bae Shaka and I were on the edge of dreaming big. I mean bigger than we ever had before. To move in together. To travel together and hustle together for more. We had not much too loose but our rooms in our parents home. I guess our dignity if we had to fail. But ahduh if you don’t know this yet then let me tell you. Failing is growth so either way there wasn’t that much at stake. You can’t learn from something you haven’t failed at .
Shaka has traveled many times before. I on the other hand did not. His been to Germany , Las Vegas his been to Jhb More than I can remember. He has traveled on temporary basis but living in another city is a whole other dimension and to do this together was a New experience for each one of us.
We were dating for 5 years in already. We never had on and off break up’s . But we always toughen up through any one of our fair share ” running on empty experiences”. You know what I mean? We were past the infatuation stage and ready to venture big in the real world.
For more on what it was like relocating click over here
Brace yourself you in for a lengthy one grab a cup of Tea
I am one of those control freaks who is set on being my version of successful. I like so many others dared to relocate for my version of success. I am still trying to figure out what exactly that is. All I know is that right now I am not even close to it
Sandton compared to where I am from is way more
- Diverse (most people living in Sandton are from all corners of Africa and beyond)
- People are genuinely more friendly
- Yes it is a faster pace life compared to Cape Town (Things happen quickly All executive decisions starts here. One Minute people are on a flight and then they back in the office) It is speedy gonzales
- The opportunities are insane (in every good way) Think about it Sandton is the heart beat of South Africa’s economy
- Work Culture is lit in so many ways (lunch is so not a thing people don’t just go to work and go home. There is always a network sesh or social happening during the week)
- Lifestyle is way more than just your personal taste in things. Especially here. The lifestyle in Sandton is about connection and people and wait for it… Travel
- Success is all around Sandton it never feels far from you
There are a ton more but to give you the just that is my core of why I am still here.
The struggle is Real
My Only heart felt struggle is that I am not synced into any of the above. I am still trying to figure my life out . I found difficulty to thrive in any of the above. I must be doing something wrong. I cant be in the space that I am in. With all that surrounding me and not be flourishing with all the areas I have mentioned.
- Finding a different company to grow in was a major thing to do on my list of thriving
- Earning a ton of money in order to save and study or travel ties into this
- Networking I am getting way better at. Learning how to not just be friends with friends but to find the courage to actually build contacts from those friendships. I know people who know people but I have never been strategic to thrive with my friendships. I seriously don’t know whats wrong with me. I am afraid I guess of people assuming I want to use them. #OverthinkerStruggles
I feel that for the past two years and counting so much cool things has happened and I have grown a ton but In terms of my goal flow I am in the same place as before . I haven’t been achieving the “big stuff”.
There have been a few times where I was just too hard on myself and of course wanted to throw in the towel over here
I had a lengthy Convo with my Mom a few days ago. About this and things we generally don’t talk about. This was a 45 min call . I was on the roof top of where I work . I Had a good cry and just soaked in the energy of the sunset and busyness of Sandton. The sun was a gorgeous pink with red and yellow undertones . People were literally walking below the building with suite cases on their way to the Gaustation. The horizon of the skyscrapers were finding rest while the work day came closer to an end. Traffic was at it’s peek already and on the other side of the building you could view the peacefulness of the residential estates.
To be honest I am puzzled I just came through piecing my emotions together. This Blog space is the coolest ventilation machine ever. Sharing this for the heart that is meant to read it. Blows breath into my journey. I shared this with you guys because I know what it is like to get advice from a turtle instead of a giraffe. You can’t explain to a giraffe what a turtle can only understand. Td Jakes couldn’t have said it any better over here
You wanna move down ?
By all means I say do it. You don’t have to move here permanently. You can always transfer back to wherever home is for you. I haven’t met any one my age that wanted to be here till the end of time. We always yearning for more. I see myself settling down in Cape Town. But I feel comfortable here now. Of course I don’t want to be here for quite too long. The bae and I do want to travel and live and work abroad.
Things never go according to plan & our paths won’t be alike if you had to try. A lot of my friends found Job success way quicker than I did. Some never liked it. But from my experience there is more positives than negatives that came out of daring to do this. You live you learn and grow. It is always easy to attain everything. The hard part is to maintain it kinderish but what is even harder is to afford to have more.
The following is normally factors to consider when relocating things I thought about but didn’t fathom until I experienced it myself.
I have had many instances where I was in the position well we were , the bae and I. To splurge on a car but we both live and work walking distance from work. So was it really going to be beneficial? We want to travel and we were both in agreement that we don’t need a car right now and right here. Public transport I have never had an issue with around Sandton. When we need to travel a bit further out we go along with friends Uber or Sleep Over. Young Wild and Free Vibes.
I have never felt uncomfortable or unsafe around Sandton. Of course their are incidents that occur like everywhere else. I read the Sandton Chronicle. But nothing dramatic traumatized me other than my own emotional drama like I can never win chants. Fortunately where I have always lived. We have boom gates and private security. My previous studio apartment came with a panic button , home alarm , gate control. But remember nothing is guaranteed. You just have to be cautious and use your common sense to avoid crime. We were at a bar once in Braamfontein. We had a great time and then there was this obvious drunk f@!% who wanted to get slutry with me. And we just left and went to a better bar that we wouldn’t have found if that never happened. So remain positive at all times.
Look there are places that are expensive and there are places which is reasonable. Our first studio apartment was in Rivonia which was super convenient for work and traveling. We paid R4400 for an open plan studio living pad. We had a garden pool and tennis court. Security. Laundry could be done on the premises. This included water and electricity. Partial furniture was added too. It was enough room for the two of us. We had and spacious if we had people over. The landlord was just such and ass. Over time as per normal rent does increase and you just get over all your landlords B@!3s%&*
Compared to Cape Town Spaza shops is not a thing around Sandton. Spice shops are ridiculously over priced here compared to home. Here is no stores like Shoprite Pep or Makro. You have to travel out. In a nutshell food and essentials watch out for checkers and PnP and WoolWorths specials. They worth the pocket change that you will have left.
Ask For help
People are generally willing to guide or advice you if you had to ask. Reach out to people in a sincere manner. I know what it is like to be in a new town overwhelmed by your own expectations. I had so much pride I eventually had steam coming from my ears after running empty not knowing how to cope at times I feel like I have failed. Try chatting to a stranger which is quite normal that’s how friendly people are here. Your uber driver the gaubus driver. The person next to you on a bench. Most times they respond to you in a non judgmental way.
Those calls home meant everything to me especially in the beginning before things even got hard. I feel like it’s always best to not call just when you in trouble but make up for the time missed out. Ask what’s for supper. How your grandparents health are. If there is anything new and how the things are that may be old. Besides people cant help but share tragic news either which are golden convos that remind you why you in a new place and never loose sight of that ultimate reason. No matter how home sick you are. Video calls are the funniest. Pretending to fake phone freeze. The time whatsap call had no audio and I would write down my response on post notes and show it to the camera.
In case of Emergency
Have that savings account for that emergency rush to the hospital or flight home whatever. Get that credit card and be wise with it. Also have your ducks in a row register a local gp in your new city and keep your secondary gp at home. Find out what your registered hospital is for your medical aid plan. Update your emergency contact No. Have a emergency list in your new home. For private cabs or the local police station. Whatever you can think of in case of emergency. Have them thought out practically.